Dear Swim Club Members only

The advice column for what you can't say at work.

Real questions from real people. The kind of stuff that isn't safe for LinkedIn and isn't easy to bring to your lead. Completely anonymous. Only available to OnlySwimFans members.

The gate is here to keep it safe. If people are going to send in the hard, messy stuff, I don't want it on the internet, or even LinkedIn.

Your email stays with me. The column stays with its readers.

Questions go to anne-marie@joinswimclub.com. Anyone can write in.

Dear Swim Club Members Only

The advice column.

Real questions. Operator-grade answers. Completely anonymous.

New Letters

“My Boss Is a Great Person But May Be In Over Her Head”

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No direction. No feedback. No presence. When your manager disappears, you have more options than you think.

March 1, 2026

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I'm shielding my team from a toxic company and it's costing me

I'm about to return to work after a year-long maternity leave

I keep getting into conflicts at work and I'm always the common denominator

I know I should leave my job. I'm still here.

I got promoted and one person on my team is acting out because of it

I've been at my job for four years and I'm just... bored

I want to go out on my own but I don't know if I have what it takes

Do I reach back out to someone who believed in me?

I finally got the raise. My first reaction was anger.

Got a situation at work?

If you're dealing with something at work you can't bring to your lead, your skip, or LinkedIn, this is the right place.

Send your question below. What gets published goes out completely anonymous: no name, no role, no trace. You can also email me directly at anne-marie@joinswimclub.com.

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AMG